Villanova At-Risk for Loss of the Lucky Blazer

Writing our marriage vows, we promised to… I don’t remember. I do remember that we intentionally left out the “obey” part. The obey bit seems a bit forced, but surely ‘showing respect’ should be part of the marriage compact.


A reminder that need to digitize my old photos.

We married in the Rayado chapel built by Kit Carson for his wife Josefa. (According to local legend, she did not like taking the carriage… riding through a cloud of dirt and dust to attend church 11-miles north in Cimarron, New Mexico.)



Kit Carson’s third wife, Josefa





For years, I’ve told the story about reaching out to the diocese in Santa Fe and asking them if we could use Josefa’s chapel for a wedding. The diocese was reluctant: the church had not been open in 30 years, and it was dirty. Whimpering worked.  And I promised to clean the chapel and leave it better than we found it.

Finding an organist who would play the wheezy, antique organ with a couple of non-functioning notes was also difficult. The organist who finally acquiesced, began by saying, “I am a musician! This is not a musical instrument!”

I whimpered some more saying, “It’s not about making music. The function of the organ  is to create historical ambience.” It was a hard-sell, but the organist caved in.

This morning, I did a bit of research. First, I needed a photo of the chapel (I have yet to digitize mine) and then I needed to confirm that Kit Carson built the chapel for Josefa. As it turns out, the local legend is so much more colorful than the facts behind Santa Nino built in 1902 by Petrita Beaubien Abreu in memory of her husband. How disappointing! I like the legend so much better than the fact!

But it is a fact that when I married Mark on June 10, 1978, I did not promise to obey. However, you would think that showing respect would be part of the marriage vows.

NCAA Basketball: Final Four-Villanova vs Oklahoma

Apr 2, 2016; Houston, TX, USA; Villanova Wildcats mascot reacts after the game against the Oklahoma Sooners in the 2016 NCAA Men’s Division I Championship semi-final game at NRG Stadium. Villanova won 95-51. Mandatory Credit: Troy Taormina-USA TODAY Sports

Every time Villanova makes college basketball’s Final Four, Mark revisits my sins of 1985 –  the year that Villanova won over Georgetown 66 to 64.  Excited  as if he had scored the final points himself, Mark went to the closet looking for his Villanova blazer. Pumped up and glowing with success, he would wear it to work and gleefully make a perfect ass of himself.

Unfortunately, I had  recently cleaned out the closet and given his cherished blazer to Goodwill. Not only had I given the blazer to Goodwill, but I had forgotten to remove the insignia from the breast pocket. Someone somewhere… maybe someone pan-handling on a street corner… was wearing his blazer! HOW COULD I? WHAT WAS I THINKING? I had also failed to show respect.

DSCN2675Tonight, the Villanova Wildcats (34-5) play the North Carolina Tar Heels (33-6) for the NCAA championship. Mark, however, will be reduced to wearing his Villanova sweats. If the Wildcats win… all will be well. If they lose to North Carolina, it will be a long night as Mark revisits my lack of respect and the disposal of his “lucky” blazer.





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I have lived 100 lives. I write essays, short stories, poetry, grocery lists and notes to myself. If I am ever lost, look for a paper trail, but be careful not to trip over any books that lie scattered here and there. I am a reader. I am a reader in awe of writers. When I don't live in Westcliffe, Colorado, I live in London where I am a long-time member of Word-for-Word - Crouch End.
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4 Responses to Villanova At-Risk for Loss of the Lucky Blazer

  1. We were at the regional in Louisville and routed for Villanova versus Miami . But since I went to North Carolina am rooting against Mark’s team tonight. May the best team win.

  2. H Brent Bruser says:

    Perfect! The b-ball gods(lower case intentional) are lining up in favor of Nova. The Catholics across this nation will light thousands of candles and so it will be.

    Sent from my iPad


    • timeout2 says:

      I’m bringing veggie snacks, fruit, bread and dipping oil. As for candles… what a good idea! I’ll bring candles too. Never let it be said that for lack of faith…

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